North Carolina just passed Amendment One. Unofficial results are that 2,135,740 voted, approx 61% voted “for” and 39% voted “against”. Here is the language of the amendment:
|Sec. 6. Marriage.Marriage between one man and one woman is the only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in this State. This section does not prohibit a private party from entering into contracts with another private party; nor does this section prohibit courts from adjudicating the rights of private parties pursuant to such contracts.|
I was reviewing the election results and my boys were looking over my shoulder. Here is the conversation:
Me: So, this is the one that is a bummer (pointing to the results).
Kid 1: Which one is it?
Me: It’s the one that says families with two moms or two dads will not be recognized by the state of North Carolina.
Kid 2: That is so wrong.
Kid 1: It’s not fair.
Me: I know.
Kid 1: Why didn’t you vote for this one?
Me: I did.
Kid 1: Why don’t you disguise yourself and vote for it again?
Me: Because that’s illegal. Everybody is supposed to have one vote.
Kid 1: Its not fair.
Kid 2:Why does it matter to them if somebody has two moms or two dads?
Me: Because some people feel like marriage should only be between a man and a woman.
Kid 2: Not cool man.
Kid 2: If the mom gets sick, they already have a person to take care of them. Why do they send ’em to an orphanage?
Me: They won’t go to an orphanage, but if something bad happens to one mom, so that they can’t take care of the kids, we don’t know what will happen to the kids.
Kid 1: Why don’t people like the people who marry a boy and a boy or a girl and a girl?
Me: I guess a lot of them think God doesn’t like it, or maybe they just don’t like the idea.
Kid 1: That’s not nice.
Kid 2: God loves love, so why would he not like it if it was two boys or two girls?
Me: It doesn’t make sense to me either.
Kid 1: Why do they think God likes them better? ‘Cause they think their opinion is right and the other people’s opinion is wrong.
Kid 2: Well God should just, like, I think he’d be madder at the people that didn’t want the people to get married.
Kid 1: Two boys to get married and two girls.
Me: Did you know that it also is about two grown-ups that are boy and girl that might have kids or property that they share, but now, the state doesn’t recognize that they are together if they aren’t married.
Kid 1: yeah
Kid 2: What’s wrong with not getting married?
Me: I don’t know. I think people are scared to change the way things have been. They think all families should look a certain way and do certain things to be legitimate. But we know a lot of families that don’t have one dad and one mom married together.
Kid 2: yeah, I think I’m gonna go get myself some breakfast.
Kid 1: What’s legitimate? (yawn)
Me: It means that everyone recognizes that that is what’s right. It’s like everyone knows the same thing is right or wrong and they’re saying only marriage is right. How do you think you would feel if the state told you your family is wrong?
Kid 1: I would feel really bad and feel like my family was bad, but it really isn’t.